Have you ever felt like you weren't given all the pieces ?
If you could just find the missing pieces, life would make so much more sense.
I hear you.
My whole life I learned that to be successful, I had to work harder than everyone else and push harder.
If I was tired or worn down, I just had to keep forcing my way through.
But what if that's just one way of doing things?
From where I stand, there are two paths:
Path A - Pushing, Forcing, Fear-based, Patriarchal System, Zero Sum
Path B - Trusting, Deciding, Alignment-based, Post-Patriarchal, Collective
We're all very familiar with Path A.
This is the one most of us have been operating from our whole lives.
It's the path that tells us
More work = More reward
But I'm here to tell you that's only one option.
What if the power of your decisions, belief and alignment could help you have more success by doing less?
I want this for you
More joy, more pleasure, more success, more trust
Less work, less worry, less judgement, less fear
It’s amazing how little and how much can change in a year, solely depending on our perspective.
Maybe 2020 wasn’t the year you hoped. Maybe 2021 will be your year, if you’re ready to make that decision.
There are three foundational keys that form the backbone of my coaching philosophy that has gotten my clients results this year like...
tens of thousands of dollars more in income
deeper levels of self-love, acceptance and understanding than they ever thought possible
greater intimacy with themselves and loved ones
more badass confidence (with boundaries) at work
more freedom, energy and fulfillment than ever before
And I’m going to spill them all for you right here so you can have them too.
The latest research in mindfulness and neuroscience shows that awareness is a necessary skill for transformation. We must be aware of what we want and aware of what is in the way of us getting what we want.
We bring awareness to our breath, sensations and...
Most people believe that your job has to be the thing that gives you meaning and purpose.
I believe meaning and purpose is accessible to everyone, anywhere at any time, regardless of what they do.
This should be obvious.
We're human beings.
We have a fundamental right to feel a sense of meaning and experience a sense of purpose in our lives, no matter what we do, no matter the phases and changes we go through in life.
But it's one of those insidious beliefs that so many of us have taken on, especially in the United States, that we have to find this through work.
We're programmed from a young age to search for this, a la...
What am I going to be when I grow up??
What's gonna be THE thing that gives me meaning, that gives me purpose, that gives me a sense of self, a sense of identity.
That's how our whole system is set up.
It sucks that so many of us are taught that this is the path to a fulfilling life.
At the end of the day, there are some people who find meaning and purpose in...
When clients start working with me, there's this longing that comes alive.
In our sessions they finally glimpse the possibility for their life that a deep part of them knew all along but the thinking mind buried deep-down with its endless thoughts, doubts and fears.
I know it's been hard to give yourself credit – that brain of yours is always scanning for the ways you messed up or could have done it better.
I know it's been hard to prioritize yourself – because you have your career and family and future to consider.
I know it's been hard to get support – because that would mean admitting that you can't actually do it all on your own.
I know it's been hard to receive help – because we've been taught over and over again to be fierce women that can do it all on our own.
I'm here to tell you what you already know – that time is over.
We're doing things a little differently now.
You know you need space, because it's all so much right now.
You know you...
Many of my clients are searching for purpose and meaning in their lives – can you relate?
A lot of us are using the disruption of this year to reflect and reevaluate.
My approach is not the conventional one:
I won't give you an MBTI, Strengths Assessment or the like
I won't talk about finding your Ikigai
I won't help you job search, review your resume or write a cover letter
Personality assessments and strengths finders only go so far if you don't feel connected and confident inside.
My experience with career counseling at Stanford and Google felt like being pushed to skip from A (not knowing wtf I liked and cared about) to Z (totally confident applying for jobs) without the support to hold me in the journey.
That's why my approach is different – confidence first, purpose second
I trust that you and you alone hold the vision for your purpose in life and it will become clearer the more you trust yourself
I help you tap into the wise, intuitive parts of you that know...
One of my brilliant clients shared in our last session that as her responsibility and influence increases in the world, the more support she needs.
We often think it's the opposite – that the more responsible, mature and evolved we become, the less support we should need but that is sooo not true.
As my business expands and I'm on-track to sell out my 1:1 coaching (get on my schedule if you've been thinking about it ;) the more support I get myself.
I have my own 1:1 coach, group coaching program, and several online courses I'm involved in at any given time so I can feel at my best for my current clients, my loved ones and feel that I'm continuing to grow.
So I ask you, how would it feel to give yourself the support you need to grow right now?
What stories or beliefs are you telling yourself that make it hard to do that? Here are some of my faves:
A little birdie told me you're struggling to make the space and do the things you need to do to feel at your best.
In my last post, I shared a super common reason why women struggle with this (read it here) and now I want to share what to do after you feel like you've failed yourself.
Here's what you do:
You let go and try again
K, let's flesh it out a bit
Don't make it mean you're a failure
Don't make it mean you never finish things
Don't make it mean you'll never succeed
Put it this way – you don't make it mean anything about you whatsoever – got it?
Whatever happened is in the past and it really doesn't matter
Here's what matters:
Do you want this?
Is it important to you?
Does it matter to you deep down that you do this for yourself?
Yes? GREAT. That's the only thing that matters.
Cause women are freaking powerful and I have no doubt that you can make it happen if you really truly believe it's important.
Now summon your innate strength, make the...
If you're anything like the women I work with, you have BIG dreams but struggle when it comes time to prioritize yourself and follow through.
You've finally gotten to a point in life where you've dialed in the things that make you feel at your best – let's take a sec to celebrate that, k!?
You know you feel good when you meditate, move and eat good food, but it's a struggle to actually make it happen.
Why the disconnect?
Here's the tea
There's a part of you that knows when you prioritize yourself and feel at your best, you shine like THE FREAKING SUN and are capable of anything you put your mind to.
Sounds awesome right? IT IS.
And it's TERRIFYING to the part of you that thinks if you become the best version of yourself, you will outshine someone you love.
If you outshine your partner, parent or best friend, you might not belong.
The fear of not belonging is a DEEP evolutionary fear that translates in our primal brain to the fear of DEATH.
So what does that part of you do?
Do you find yourself stuck in the trap of trying to figure out how to get the perfect job, the perfect house, the perfect love and the perfect life? Trusting that once you do, then you'll be happy.
Yeah, me too.
Many of us high-achievers spend ungodly amounts of time planning, scheduling, and trying to control our lives, bodies, careers, and love lives.
The truth is there is no future reality where you are perfect, have everything figured out and get all the things you want. Sorry, babe.
Consider this your official permission slip to stop obsessing over your schedule, perfecting your diet and trying to control your life to get to this mythical future reality – because – It. Does. Not. Exist.
Instead, focus on what is possible today.
Repeat after me:
Perfect does not exist
There is only now
I get to choose how I feel
I get to choose how I act
Here's a simple process to start living in the present and release your inner perfectionist:
1 What is my vision for my life?...
When was the last time you can remember feeling truly confident?
Paint the picture – where were you? what were you doing? what were you wearing? how did you feel?
It doesn't matter if it was last week or last decade, if you can remember a time when you felt truly in your power, comfortable in your own skin and in charge, you know what I mean when I say...
When you feel confident from the inside out, not because of praise or awards, something clicks inside
You feel more powerful than you've ever felt
You feel more free than you've ever felt
You feel more capable than you've ever felt
And you don't just feel this way, you actually are more powerful, free and capable when you deeply believe in and know your own strength!
When you feel confident from the inside out, you no longer have to play the game to work hard to get praise and get stuck in that cycle that sucks your soul and leaves you burnt out.
...but don't get me wrong, you *can* play the game, and you'll be a rockstar at...