In our culture, we as women are taught to dim our light, to censor our expression, to play small.
We’re taught to hide our brilliance, lest we outshine our partner, our parents, or our friends.
There are a million ways we hold ourselves back from being our truest, biggest, most fully expressed selves.
And psychologically it makes sense.
Many of us hold deep deep fears in our bones, from our own traumas, from our mothers’ traumas and from the culture we live in that tells us in so many ways that a woman who shines, a woman who embodies her power and her confidence is not safe.
The women who stand out, who speak up, who don’t play small are most vulnerable and likely to be knocked down emotionally or physically.
But you are strong and brave and you’re ready to remove this patriarchal residue that’s dulling your shine.
It’s time to stop hiding and playing small. It’s time to step into your power and share your skills and gifts with the world.
I have a confession. I was not always the bold, bright leader that I strive to be today.
For several years of my twenties after my yoga teacher training I stopped getting my hair done, gave up makeup and avoided jewelry.
I donated a lot of my pretty things and basically wore organic cotton t-shirts and leggings. I even tried to stop washing my hair and "break my addiction to lip balm" (yup, google it.)
FYI Greasy hair and chapped lips is NOT a good look on me, or anyone for that matter.
I thought that to be a good person, I had to trade wearing nice things, enjoying life and watching TV for being an ascetic mindful vegetarian, or in other words, be something other than who I am.
I'm glad to report that period of my life is OFFICIALLY OVER.
Not that there's anything wrong with those things. I think we can all swing into extremes in the name of trying to improve our selves and our lives and sometimes we just need to find center.
I believe the true juice of personal development work...
What feels scary and out of your comfort zone?
For me, being seen, sharing my voice, speaking up, asking questions, posting on social media has been a huge edge.
It's something that starting a business has pushed me to do and I'm so grateful for that.
The way we grow is by doing new things outside our comfort zone.
But it's a bit more complex than that.
Human brains evolved when we lived in groups and depended on one another for survival. Doing something against the status quo meant the possibility of being kicked out of the group, which meant certain death.
This fear is still deeply programmed in our brains. When we address it, we clear the unconscious blocks to our desires and make attaining our goals much easier.
We need to know that we will still be loved, still belong, still, be safe if we try something new.
That we'll be celebrated if we succeed and taken care of if we fail. That no matter what happens we're still worthy.
So if there's something you've been wanting to try but...
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