Type A control freak wanna be to consistency Queen 🪄

Consistency means a very different thing to me now than it did for the first 30+ years of my life. I used to think consistency meant doing the same thing at the same time everyday forever (how boring!)

If I could search back through old journals, planners, post it notes and documents I know I would find literally hundreds of perfectly planned out regiments for every aspect of my life from study schedules, to workout routines, work routines, to morning meditation and self care rituals to social calendars.

There's one thing all of these plans have in common – I absolutely never followed a single one of them. And I took that to mean I am someone who can't be trusted. I am someone who is incapable of following through.

When actually I set myself up for "failure" by having astronomically high expectations for myself that I couldn't possibly live up to and honestly – thank god I didn't cause it would have been harmful to me to actually do so.

Consistency is something I'm now able to call a strength only because it's built on a foundation of self understanding, followed by self acceptance and compassion. I built self trust by proving to myself that I could show up for commitments if they were actually grounded in compassion AND reflected an understanding of the kind of person I am...

Am I the kind of person who is going to go the the gym at the same time every day and do the same routine? Absolutely not. I would be bored to death. But could I be the person that asks myself each day "What does taking care of myself look like today?" and act on what I feel is right each day? It turns out, yes, yes I am.

I'm at over 6 months now of biking every single week, 50 miles a week on average! I have wanted to get back into cycling for years now but this was the year I felt I was ready and told myself I was going to do it. I didn't have an exact plan for it. I just knew I wanted to bike every week, when I felt like it, in community and let it be fun. Look at us now!

Consistency isn't about perfection. It doesn't make you a better person to do more. Consistency isn't a sprint. It's about the long haul so what is doable and flexible is more likely to stick with you through the ups and downs in motivation and twists and turns of life.

I tried so hard to control every aspect of myself and my life because I didn't trust that I would show up. Now I know I will show up and I don't have to try so hard to control it.

Now one of my super powers is helping other women remove the layers of un-due pressure from high expectations, shoulds, and "but this is how I'm supposed to do its!" and create their own flexible and doable plan to live a life that's just right for them ✨

My signature coaching program will be enrolling soon – stay tuned!