How do I learn to relax?

burnout pleasure Jul 17, 2025

I was born and raised in stress. Growing up I rarely (never?) had an unscheduled afternoon. There was no such thing as sleeping in and reading for pleasure. So "How do I learn to relax" is a question I return to again and again and will likely continue to for the rest of my life.

Given my upbringing, of course I had a hard time relaxing as I got older and was notoriously a menace on school breaks. I would wake my friends up early and demand we go surfing or do something cause I never learned how to "do nothing" and didn't know how to just be. I *did* know how to procrastinate because getting stuck in avoidance was one way I was able to let myself *not* do anything, even if it wasn't all that restful.

A client of mine is on the precipice of leaving her day job after building her business for several years and is feeling rightly unsure about how she'll manage to relax, even with her new spacious schedule. 

She had a realization that even though she's in her late thirties she's never h...

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What do motherhood and leadership have in common?

burnout empowerment Jun 20, 2025

One of my clients just had her first week back at work after having a baby and she's on our weekly coaching call gushing about how amazing her life feels!

This is honestly not how I imagined this call going...

She was worried she'd have imposter syndrome returning to work (totally understandable) but instead she feels more confident than ever, relaxed in her skin, and deliciously self-assured with zero signs of imposter syndrome 🎉

There was one moment in a meeting where she felt a wave of panic but she reached for the breathing tools we'd practiced right there at the table and no one was the wiser as she found her center again.

This is the same woman who admitted her Type A tendencies, insecurity at work, need to prove herself and an immense internal pressure about being an amazing mom and not losing herself in the process in our first few sessions.

So what shifted??

Besides stepping through the immense portal of becoming a mother...

She got really clear about the kind of woman she wanted to ...

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Why not now? It's a great time to start

burnout empowerment Nov 22, 2022

I know what it’s like to be busy and overwhelmed, to be depressed and stuck, to not know when things are going to feel better or even if I could be trusted to take good care of myself.

😕 I remember days waking up monday morning already feeling exhausted and dreading the week ahead

😕 I remember days my to do list felt like it would never end while I simultaneously felt stuck and unable to move forward while zoning out on social media

😕 I remember days white knuckling through work and life, pounding coffee because my adrenals were already shot and I had no energy left in the tank

😕 I remember literal years of my life where I was so burned out and disconnected from myself I dreaded social plans after work, even though I loved my friends, because I was exhausted and just wanted to curl up on the couch at home

Though it’s been a decade since my first experience with moon wisdom, it’s been a slow journey for me to live my life in harmony with my cycles

Bringing the Radiance Collective ...

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The things we take for granted

burnout empowerment Nov 04, 2022

It’s the middle of the night in New Hampshire and it’s 28˚ outside. I’m sitting up in bed wishing I could sleep but my chest feels tight and every exhale sounds like a high-pitched whimper. Everytime I try to lay down it gets worse.

I’ve never had trouble breathing before but I literally can’t get enough air into my lungs, which feel like an old bellows that I have to work really hard to expand and contract.

I haven’t been able to walk from the living room up the stairs to the room I’m staying in for fear of losing my breath. I’ve been very quiet all day because talking felt like too much effort.

I’m away from home, in an unfamiliar place. All I’m focused on is trying to breathe and not panic. I didn’t know what was happening to me until the middle of the night when I listed my symptoms in my head:

✅ Shortness of breath

✅ Tightness in my chest

✅ Trouble getting enough breath

✅ Wheezing

And realized there’s a name for what I’m experiencing – I’m having an asthma attack….cool.

I...

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The moon wants to be your mirror 🪞

burnout empowerment Oct 25, 2022

In many indigenous and ancestral healing traditions, both those practiced today and those our own ancestors practiced, imbalance is the root cause of disease.

In this western culture we’re so quick to medicalize, to try to cut out the problem, when maybe, just maybe our illnesses are on our side too.

Hear me out for a minute

If you believe, like I do, that our bodies are wise and intelligent and our body and brain is more of a bodymind (credit to yogic and tantric lineages who have known and deeply studied this thousands of years before modern neuroscience is proving it) it’s not a far leap to imagine that our bodies may use illness or dis-ease to communicate to us when things are out of balance.

The problem is that we often don’t listen until the prognosis is severe, but our body has been communicating to us, in the ways it can, the whole time – trying to nudge us back into balance. Pointing out things that aren’t working for us, whether they be foods, jobs, relationships, the pac...

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What society doesn't get about moon cycles 🌒

burnout empowerment Oct 20, 2022

As I was putting the final touches on the Moon Wisdom for Modern Women Workshop and creating a bomb workbook for you something pissed me off

Your girl had a moment of second guessing and wanted to double check some resources before getting up in front of you all and preaching the moon gospel, so what does she do?

She googles “moon cycle and menstrual cycle” of course

If you do that right now you will find an entire front page of search results “debunking” any connection between these cycles

Oh maaaan did that piss me right. the. fuck. off.

So I proceeded to yell not at, but towards my partner – he’s basically an expert at moon wisdom now ;)

YOU’VE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME

THEY ARE THE EXACT SAME LENGTH!

THEY BOTH HAVE FOUR PHASES!!!

HORMONE PRODUCTION IS REGULATED BY LIGHT!

THE MOON GIVES OFF LIGHT!

YEAH THEY DON’T ALWAYS “SYNC UP” BUT THAT’S BECAUSE OF LIGHT POLLUTION & PHONES & BEING DISCONNECTED FROM THE EARTH & SHIT HORMONES IN OUR FOOD

SO YOU’RE TRYING TO TELL ME THE MOON ...

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What moon wisdom can do for you ✨

burnout empowerment Oct 13, 2022

Guess what? I just directly invited 404 women from my LinkedIn network to join me in Moon Wisdom! Talk about a major “asking for what I want” edge 🙈

I am so passionate and so clear that this is what I am meant to be talking and teaching about right now that I am taking uncomfortable actions like this to get this message out there!

One of the lessons the moon has taught is that when things are aligned, they fall into place so much more easily and so much more quickly than you ever could’ve imagined.

Moon Wisdom is a vibe, a force and a whole motherf*cking way. of. life.

Before I really learned to implement moon wisdom, my to-do list haunted me everywhere I went and because it never went to zero, I rarely felt proud, accomplished or relaxed.

I felt overwhelmed by all the demands and responsibilities of my life and felt like I had to white knuckle it through my day to force myself to get shit done (hahah alignment – wtf is that?)

There was a good five year period where I was so over...

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The practice that helps heal burnout

burnout Oct 14, 2021

I know things have been hard recently.

Social calendars are filling up. Work’s not getting any easier and you’re pretty worn down.

When everything feels like it’s piling up and the weight is getting heavier and heavier with no sign of release, sometimes the best thing to do is just to be with it.

Just hear me out.

I know you’re already googling getaways to Hawaii and trying to figure out when you can burn it all to the ground, move across the world and take a well-deserved break for once.

Or maybe you’re the type to just tune it all out and dive headfirst into the next binge in an attempt to get some GD peace, quiet and space away from all of your responsibilities.

But what if the thing that could make it all better was actually turning towards it all?

That’s what I’m here to offer.

The practice of being present right here and right now so you taste real freedom and real choice, the kind that comes from deep acceptance and inner clarity.

Sound good? Let’s try it! What’ve you g...

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Taking my own medicine 💊

burnout Apr 09, 2021

Can you relate to this?

You’re going along doing the things – maybe that’s a job you’re good at, a relationship you love or a family you care for and everything feels great – that is, until it doesn’t.

In 2018 I finished my master’s program, quit my full-time job, and took a sabbatical to travel and be with myself. In 2019 I started my 1.5 year deep dive into coaching and completed my certifications.

And in 2020 I started my coaching business. I coached my first low-fee client, got my first full-fee client, launched my group course Pleasure as Medicine and things kept growing from there!

As I’ve hit this one year milestone of running my business I’m taking time to evaluate.

And here’s what I noticed:

I have only ever run a coaching business during a global pandemic, the worst fire season in California history and the racial justice reckoning of our generation.

Needless to say, it’s been a lot.

It’s been hard work holding my own vision, holding the vision for what I am creating ...

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Which path will you choose?

burnout Dec 17, 2020

Have you ever felt like you weren't given all the pieces 🧩?

If you could just find the missing pieces, life would make so much more sense.

I hear you.

My whole life I learned that to be successful, I had to work harder than everyone else and push harder.

If I was tired or worn down, I just had to keep forcing my way through.

But what if that's just one way of doing things?

From where I stand, there are two paths:

Path A - Pushing, Forcing, Fear-based, Patriarchal System, Zero Sum

Path B - Trusting, Deciding, Alignment-based, Post-Patriarchal, Collective

We're all very familiar with Path A.

This is the one most of us have been operating from our whole lives.

It's the path that tells us

More work = More reward

But I'm here to tell you that's only one option.

What if the power of your decisions, belief and alignment could help you have more success by doing less? 🤔

I want this for you ✨

More joy, more pleasure, more success, more trust

Less work, less worry, less judgemen...

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