As I was strolling on the beach this week, pondering life (as one does), I had an insight that might just be exactly what you need to hear today.
I caught myself wondering how much of the self-care and pleasure practices I do are exactly for me...let me explain.
I was first introduced to mindfulness and meditation through my former employer, Google. I felt super fortunate to take classes like Search Inside Yourself, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, Managing Your Energy and Emotional Intelligence that were all incredibly helpful on my journey.
Through this education, I learned fundamental skills to help me manage my energy, emotions and mental health. But the thing is...these skills weren’t really intended for me or my own well-being and happiness, they were intended to make me a more effective and productive employee.
Our intentions matter!
Can taking care of your body and emotional health help you be a more successful employee – yes! Should that be your primary...
Is your brain on your team or fighting you every step of the way?
If most of us answer honestly, our brain is definitely not on our side. It’s constantly telling us why we’re not good enough or can’t possibly have the things we desire. Why is that?
Well you see there’s this concept called resistance. You can think of it like a principle of nature – whether it’s resistance in an electrical circuit or friction generated by pushing something heavy –
Resistance is a universal reaction to change
In human beings, resistance can look like avoiding doing the things you know make you feel good, like meditating or exercising, in favor of what is comfortable and known, like perhaps Netflix ;)
Our minds are literally designed to resist change because what is known is always safer than what is new. To our brains, the unknown is always where potential danger lies..
To get your brain on board with your dreams and desires, you have to give your brain a...
I’ve been wanting to share this huge shift in my life but wasn’t sure how so I shared it in our weekly call for The Radiance Collective last week and it sparked so many perspective shifts and amazing conversations that I wanted to share it with you too, so here it goes:
I’m at my heaviest and have never felt more sexy than I do right now
Body image is a huge topic with my clients and we all carry so much shame and conditioning around what we look like and that little number on the scale (which is funny because I don’t have a scale and I’m just guessing that I’m at my heaviest )
Most people think that weight is a key indicator of health and happiness and they couldn’t be more wrong. There’s an entire body of research called Health at Every Size and if you’re baffled by this concept, I encourage you to go look it up, read a book, whatever you do.
I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been and have never felt more sexy. I...
I’m riding high from what’s possible when women gather together with presence and intention to support, witness and lift one another up since we just wrapped up the very first virtual retreat to kick-off The Radiance Collective!
It’s legit life-changing to have spaces like this dedicated to our empowerment and growth and I wanted to let you all know exactly how you can get in one of these containers with me this year.
Pleasure as Medicine
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Together we’ll energize body, mind & spirit, harness the power of pleasure and release stress, trauma and emotion from our bodies so you can feel vibrant and alive.
The program includes live weekly 90 minute community coaching calls, as well as weekly video modules and guided audio...
Yesterday morning, I stumbled into the kitchen bleary eyed after an extra long sleep – it feels like life these days has been demanding more from me – more sleep, more space, more stretching, more care. Lucien was drinking his coffee and had the inauguration proceedings streaming from his desk in the sun drenched breakfast nook.
I wasn’t really planning to watch, but there they were. I made my morning cacao (yes I drink and eat my chocolate these days ;) and watched as Biden spoke, Garth Brooks took the stage and finally – as this gleaming beacon of light – Amanda Gorman stepped up to the podium.
I was immediately captivated by her presence and her words. Soon after she started speaking I burst out sobbing, releasing god knows what I had been holding on to. I think many of us have been holding our breath for four years and are only now allowing a bit of an exhale.
I stopped watching after she spoke and joined my Wednesday morning womens speaking circle...
Five years ago I had an incredibly powerful experience on my journey to becoming the Queen of my life that I’ve been wanting to share but didn’t know how. I got stuck in perfectionism, in wondering if you would think I was too weird and then I just decided to go for it.
So back in 2016, I was still working at Google while going to grad school on the side.
I was tired and dull. I was lonely and insecure. I was afraid of speaking my truth and tbh didn’t really know what “my truth” was. I was "depressed" (in quotes because I think in grief would've been a more apt diagnosis) according to a counselor I saw a couple times through my employer.
And I was still getting great reviews at work, had a loving partner and amazing friends. Things looked fine, but they weren’t.
You see I knew my dad was going to die that year, maybe not consciously but something in me knew it was going to be an intense year.
So I joined a year-long women's therapy group eager to...
As I sat glued to the news coverage on the coup at our US capitol yesterday, I was reminded of a passage I cited in my master’s thesis from Riane Eisler’s seminal text on patriarchy called The Chalice and the Blade.
As she explains, throughout history humans have cycled between periods of relative peace, freedom and prosperity (which she calls gylany) and periods of war, control and domination (which she calls androcracy – we could also call patriarchy).
Historical patterns show that before a major paradigm and power shift from androcracy to gylany, violence and chaos escalates. What we are witnessing in the United States is as Riane Eisler puts it:
"the final bloodbath of the dying system's violent efforts to maintain its hold...but the death throes of androcracy could also be the birth pangs of gylany and the opening of a door into a new future"
The jig is up. The new power structure prioritizing peace freedom and prosperity for all is forming
We mourn for those...
HAPPY FREAKING NEW YEAR!
Holy F balls WE MADE IT. YOU MADE IT! WE FREAKING DID IT.
On this New Years morn, I'm sitting with the desire of doing more of what lights me up and turns me on in 2021.
What if this was the energy you brought to this month, to this year!?!
Hey look I know it's hard with covid and all. It requires dedication, creativity and support to find joy, turn-on and life right now.
But what if?
Instead of deprivation and restriction we chose permission and joy this new years – cause you know how this resolution thing goes already don't you?
You don't trust yourself to make smart decisions 11 months of the year, so you buckle down for this 1 month, and hope that's going to shift the rest of your life...sorry babe, that's not how transformation happens.
I want you to build the confidence, trust and inner knowing to be able to make empowered decisions all year round – decisions that come from trust and permission, not from fear and control.
Your brain is...
I was sitting in my backyard this morning feeling tired, grumpy and frumpy from a week of hedonistic feasting and indulgence.
And reflecting on the fact that I’ve always been an all or nothing kind of gal. Maybe you can relate?
Super committed to the new thing and then totally dropping it after a few weeks (oh hi, rock climbing shoes, triathlon suit and qi gong book hiding in my closet)
It's New Year's Resolution season and if you’re starting to feel the pressure I want you to know there’s another way to do this thing.
A way that involves harnessing the energy of the season without signing ourselves up for something we know we can’t commit to only to let ourselves down and feel like a failure again.
I want you to know that it’s not your fault
All the money, time and energy you've poured into something you thought would work
Only to be let down
It’s not your fault.
It's not your fault
It's not your fault
It’s the diet’s...
Have you ever felt like you weren't given all the pieces ?
If you could just find the missing pieces, life would make so much more sense.
I hear you.
My whole life I learned that to be successful, I had to work harder than everyone else and push harder.
If I was tired or worn down, I just had to keep forcing my way through.
But what if that's just one way of doing things?
From where I stand, there are two paths:
Path A - Pushing, Forcing, Fear-based, Patriarchal System, Zero Sum
Path B - Trusting, Deciding, Alignment-based, Post-Patriarchal, Collective
We're all very familiar with Path A.
This is the one most of us have been operating from our whole lives.
It's the path that tells us
More work = More reward
But I'm here to tell you that's only one option.
What if the power of your decisions, belief and alignment could help you have more success by doing less?
I want this for you
More joy, more pleasure, more success, more trust
Less work, less worry, less judgement, less fear