A million different times in a million different ways we hold ourselves back from what we most want.
We say we don’t know what we want. If we only knew…we could do something about it.
We justify the path we’re on by saying this is what everyone else is doing, this is what we got our degree in, this is what our parents think is right, this must be it.
We get a glimmer of something that lights us up, a new possibility, a new idea that sends a little jolt of energy up our spine, but we say no, no our life is pretty good as it is, people like me don’t do that, I don’t want to risk it.
We actually get a really clear vision of our ideal life. We can see where we are, the people around us and what our life looks and feels like but we’re terrified of what people will think…she did whaaaat!?
Maybe we actually make the leap and try to make it happen right away but it doesn’t come together as easily and quickly as we wanted so we give up and decide that we can’t actually have what we want.
Maybe we even convince ourselves that we don’t actually want the thing we tried to get.
Do you start to see the scale of this problem?
The fear of losing what we already have keeps us trapped from going after what we most want.
It’s fucking terrifying to own our truth, claim our desires and put that flag in the ground that says this is who I am, this is what I’m about and this is what I want.
So what do we do? Probably a little bit of all of these:
Everyone's a little unhappy, it’s unrealistic to want something different.
I need money to live, so I have to stay in this job. It could be so much worse, at least I’m not an investment banker!
I’ve invested so much in this job/relationship/place, it’s too late to change.
I have it so much better than a lot of people, I should be grateful for what I have!
Stories are just that — stories we tell ourselves to make sense of the world around us. Even though they feel like the truth, they are not. And if they’re not serving us, we can write new ones that feel more empowering and expansive.
If you’re sick of seeing yourself get caught in your own B.S. and pretending everything is out of your control, I would love to help you get clear on what you *truly* want in life and see that you have more power than you think to make it happen!
For a limited time, I’m offering free coaching calls so you can get a taste of what’s possible when you have a coach on your side cheering you on, seeing your capability and holding your vision with you!
Book one today or reach out if you can’t find a time that works for you.